[I:https://healthclub90.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/HalNeff16.jpg]Everybody faces disappointments in life, both big and small. Sad to say, many of us tend to complain and whine about our problems to the immense discomfort of others.
It’s important to acknowledge our disappointments and not simply ignore them, but how do we do it properly without being a nag to others? The solution lies in learning helpful ways to acknowledge disappointments.
* Disappointment can develop character and patience if you allow it to. Learning to cope with your disappointments constructively can make you a stronger person in the long run.
Coping with Disappointment
First thing you need to do in learning to handle disappointment is acknowledge your old dealing approaches. Everyone has them. Do you reach for the pint of ice cream or pull away into a room all alone? Do you get intoxicated and try to forget?
When you acknowledge that your old strategy isn’t working, it is time for you to develop a fresh one.
Here are A few techniques for successfully coping with your disappointments:
1 . Acknowledge what you feel. You can honestly express the emotions you are feeling without blaming or punishing some people. This is about how you feel about the situation, not others. Articulate your feelings without attacking other people. Always be considerate, but do not be frightened to let them know how you feel.
* There is not a correct or incorrect way to feel. Your emotions are valid and if you don’t voice out your opinion then you will harbor bitterness and stress yourself out. Be straightforward with yourself about how you really feel about the problem.
2 . Put things in perspective. Even tiny disappointments can seem monumental at first. But once you have expressed your hurt, frustration, or fury, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. How much of an effect is this disappointment going to have on you tomorrow, next week, or the coming year?
* Take a breath and go for a walk to put your disappointment into perspective. Taking time to reflect and step away from the problem will help calm your nerves so you’ll be much better able to deal with the disappointment.
3. Refuse to doubt yourself. Often disappointment can make you feel like a failure. You may ask yourself why these things happen to you or you may think you were foolish to get your hopes up in the first place. But none of that is the reality. Don’t allow yourself to give in to these pessimistic thoughts!
*Disappointment is not exceptional to you. Everyone has been disappointed at some time in their life. Rather than getting down on yourself, think about what could have been done differently and learn from the experience.
4. Look for a solution or bargain. You cannot have your way all the time but sometimes there might be a second option that’s agreeable to each party.
* Have a few deep breaths, relax, and look for the “silver lining. ” It’s possible to find something positive in about any circumstance.
5. Reevaluate and create changes if possible. Sometimes when we experience disappointment, it might be a hint that we need to re-examine our priorities. Based on the degree of disappointment you are dealing with, you might need to make minor or major changes to your life.
* Learn to be versatile. Refocusing your attention on your new goals will help you forget about your disappointment.
Any person who has had even a small level of success in life has encountered disappointments.
* Winners just don’t quit. They learn from their failures and disappointments and carry on to accomplish their goals.
You can become your own greatest driving force! Don’t underestimate the power of encouraging yourself by saying, “I can do this. I can make it. I will get through this and become a better person!”
You don’t need to let disappointment to reduce your self-confidence. That’s not to say that you need to gloss over your feeling, but you can simply learn to handle your disappointments successfully, then move on to bigger and better things.