Coaching Perspective Of Beliefs
I grew up around professional philosophers, grew to become a Buddhist at 21; I thought I knew all I needed to regarding beliefs. What a surprise to get to know not many years ago that majority of the beliefs that were actually driving my life were ones I didn’t even recognize I had!
It is quite usually these unconscious beliefs that are the extremely fascinating to work with, for the reason that they are usually more deep-rooted, and, since we need to make a little bit of attempt to see them, we might not have. Yet.
Presently, as a result of the nature of the job, we coaches are inclined to separate all beliefs into empowering or disempowering, which is merely self-development-speak for “do they work for you or not?” – just in case you were thinking that the belief “I can hop off tall buildings and fly” is incredibly empowering.
Needless to say, if anyone has a few disempowering beliefs, it can be fun to assist transform those so that they can receive the outcomes they would like, whether it’s in the field of profession, relationships, spirituality, health and fitness, building their business, etc. etc., or even “simply” learning to like themselves.
You might be wondering: if my unconscious beliefs are, er, unconscious, how do I comprehend what they are? Here are two analogies that might help.
Firstly, throw yourself into a river. Any river will do, however a fast-flowing one is perfect. Then, swim down the river. Now turn around, and swim the other way. One direction is going to be simpler than the other. If your journey down the river of life is smooth and the waters seem to carry you effortlessly along, you have a pleasant/empowering set of beliefs. You could possibly transform them to go even more quickly, perhaps take superior swimming lessons or even get a power boat to go quicker and keep yourself dry, but things are operating fairly well as they are.
If you find, on the other hand, that the current is always pushing you back, you should look at, and tackle, the stuff underneath that doesn’t want to let you past.
For people who love mathematics, here is a new way of viewing it:
25 (your conscious beliefs) ? + 12 (your results)
You cannot directly see the second number you’re adding, but you can deduce from your results that it’s a negative one, and to presume that it has a 13ish flavor to it is also not difficult.
Of course we have beliefs that we’re aware of too. A favorite one is “but you don’t understand – it really is other people’s fault that I cannot be happy”. These can also drag down the quality of your life, and are at times actually difficult to modify than unconscious beliefs because their familiarity makes them appear to be more “real” and therefore more worth(?) defending.
Typical disempowering beliefs are “I’m not lovable”, “I don’t deserve it”, “Money is something other people have”, “You should be clever to succeed and I’m not” (two for the price of one there!)
Sadly, several people endure life weighed down by their conscious and unconscious beliefs, as if they had no option. But if all we need is a good quality life, it becomes necessary to evaluate and if need be, change the beliefs that we have at present. This is an incredible way to begin.
A belief, conscious or unconscious, is like a train. It may be likely that the train you are going on is taking you across the unappealing areas of the town, and when you ask the driver the final destination he says “the run-down depot in the heart of the wasteland”. Obviously the train can’t make a decision to jump the tracks and go off somewhere else, so then you know it’s time for you to change trains. Live the difference Life Coaching is based in Melbourne which offers transformational one-on-one coaching both face-to-face and on the phone. People come from all walks of life and live in and around Melbourne, interstate and overseas.
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