I feel it essential to say that I am enjoying life a good deal more than I did before 10 years and one among the several important reasons for my happiness is the positive improvements that I have incorporated in my way of life.
I won’t go into the gruesome details, but sufficient to say that the work I’ve done to be healthy, fit and vibrant has been more than valuable, and that it’s also made positivity and happiness a whole lot easier and brought great results in other areas of my life.
During this I’ve also learnt a lot regarding the function of the mind in the quest for health.
Sadly, for a lot of people, self-sabotage is a frequent companion!
Almost all of us are familiar with someone who has bought a gym membership, visited two times and somehow “forgotten” for the rest of the year. “I’m too busy”, few of them say, but not too busy to go to the pub, use up the afternoon window-shopping, or fill their daily TV quota. As a culture (perhaps as a species?!) we’re conditioned to use justifications when we notice a gap between a stated intention and what we in point of fact do, and we behave as if on some level this works fantastically well for us.
But how would it be if all our cultural conditioning told us to say instead “Oh dear, I don’t seem to be going to the gym. There seems to be a conflict between my conscious and unconscious mind! I’d better get it fixed!”? A bit like “Oh look, we’ve run out of milk. I’ll just go to the shop and get some”, rather than the elaborate and inefficient socio-linguistic averting ritual that is the norm.
I have to confess that I visit the gym on a regular basis, and it doesn’t seem to cause me any psychological anxiety at all. That’s not to say that there aren’t any areas in my life where I’m making excuses and getting bad results (I wish!) But many more years ago I decided that healthiness was essential, and I looked for and discovered tools that would overcome my tendency to opt out of my own wellbeing.
Fortunately this isn’t something that requires “willpower” (which is actually rare, and very difficult to develop) – modern coaching technology bypasses the need to grit your teeth and sweat blood to accomplish objectives 🙂
Obviously Unused Gym Membership Syndrome isn’t the only health concern where the unconscious mind gets in our way. How many overweight people feel – rightly – that they’re losing out on a lot? How many smokers would love to be free from the financial and self-esteem burdens their addiction brings them? (Not to mention all that tedious health stuff they talk about on the packets, of course.) How many people would like to live in a world where real food tasted as great as Maccas, and was just as convenient? Many people do in reality inhabit that universe.
Of course you could merely say that health, fitness, energy and enthusiasm for life are “things that other people have”. But you can choose for yourself. Live the difference Life Coaching is based in Melbourne which offers transformational one-on-one coaching both face-to-face and on the phone. People come from all walks of life and live in and around Melbourne, interstate and overseas.