Understanding The Need For Coaching

A number of different people ask me this question, so I thought it might be exciting to collect together some of the answers I give and turn them into this article!

Generally the question has the hint of: “Where can I file it?” sometimes taking the form: “Is it like (e.g.) psychiatric therapy or counseling?” and sometimes comes with interesting preconceptions, spoken or implicit. “Ah yes, you’re the people who encourage people who want to make lots of money” …

Generally people’s idea of what coaching is has a little point of contact with (my) coaching truth, but there are normally some gaps to fill in, and that is where the fun begins!

The immediate answer is that it’s helping someone to achieve a better life, whatever that might imply to that person.

“So coaches fix stuff?” people normally ask. Sometimes, yes. If someone is in a awful way, regardless of whether it be emotionally, physically or monetarily, it’s sensible to look at coaching as the resolving of a problem. For example, for several people, the topic “health” is – to begin with – about moving far away from something really undesirable, such as kilos, cigarettes or low self-esteem.

Nevertheless, for the majority of people who consult a coach, it’s not about getting out of a hole, but climbing to the summit of the mountain, as they are aware that the view from the top will be so wonderful. Several people have a vision, or know that simply having a vision to work towards can make a huge positive difference to their experience on this planet. For these people, life wasn’t meant to be “OK”, but “awesome!”

Of course, no-one said you were not allowed to jump out of the hole and just keep climbing up the mountain – we coaches are a really tolerant lot 🙂

I have had people who have come as the only options that they could see were misery or medicine. And others who treasured an incredible and compelling dream, and wanted to make certain that they got there. Not surprisingly, they’re just the ends of a spectrum; lots of people present themselves as “in-betweens” as well (although nowadays you may see some of them in the outdoor shops checking out the climbing gear.)

One thing I generally hear is: “I’ve got a friend who sincerely needs a life coach!” Frankly, nobody needs a life coach (everyone’s entitled to a mediocre and unfulfilling life, after all!), but everyone could be benefitted from one. The “friend who needs a life coach” seldom sees it the same way, of course!

Part of the reason for this may lie in this definition of a potential coaching client: someone who not only

* wants to change some aspect of their life for the better, but also

* wants to be involved in the course of achieving that and that, sadly, is what makes a lot of people opt out (of coaching, and of life normally).

It is not the duty of the coach to transform you, he cannot do that, yet a coach guides you to get the motivation, the path, the confidence and the other instruments that are needed for that transformation.

What is it that people generally decide to transform? Well, there’s health wealth relationships career emotions business wellbeing romance share-trading family spiritual stuff direction and of course plenty of other choices … and yes, you’re allowed into the restaurant even before you’ve read the menu!

So how’s it done?

Alchemy!

Live the difference Life Coaching is based in Melbourne which offers transformational one-on-one coaching both face-to-face and on the phone. People come from all walks of life and live in and around Melbourne, interstate and overseas. Visit https://livethedifference.com.au for more information on Life Coach

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