If you have negative experiences, focus your thoughts on the wonderful part of your life. Only then you will be able to take advantage of the negative experiences. Let me explain.
Tests have shown that people, who went through something very bad (a major failure in life, job loss, sickness), who met with friends to bring the focus of their thoughts away from the negative, recovered much faster as people who kept thinking about the negative experience.
You will absolutely improve if you keep being thankful for all the good in your life and forget about the bad. Be happy already about little things. Be grateful even for what seems to be a given to you, such as good meal. Delight in seeing things you often see, such as colorful plants. When you see people, approach them with a smile and you will receive a smile. Do things that cheer you up. Do not wait for a moment when you have to cheer up. Do good things to yourself even when you are happy about your life. Increase your happiness whenever you can. You will experience that you can be happier. The more you improve your state of happiness the less you will lose it at times when something very bad happens. Make happiness and joy be a habit.
Don’t see a disappointment as the finish of the world. Rather see it as a challenge, which lets you develop further. If you run into another failure, you will cope with it much better and you will understand how to transform the failure into something good. Know that all successful people had failures. They have learned, did it again, but getter, and became very successful. This is about controlling and increasing your mind power.
To turn bad experiences into something good and focus your thoughts on the good part of life is not enough. To change things swap the old with something new, this means to replace the bad experience with a good one. If you are bad in doing something, find out in what you are good and think what you can do with these capabilities and skills. When you have lost your job, it could be an opportunity to get another job in which you will succeed.
It is up to how you manage bad things. If you will keep getting yourself into more bad situations or if you will continue your life with lots of good things to happen is your choice.
People who have passed very bad times and had very bad experiences, who did not lose to see the positive side in life and made the bad things a challenge learning from it, live a happy and successful life. But also people who were on the top and lost all, who pursued new challenges, have been successful soon again.
Life comes with positive and negative things, big successes and problems, life and death, and good and bad things. Life has many facets and one should look at every aspect and what each aspect offers. While you lose in one aspect, you might win in another.
If you are a content person and you have a bad experience, you of course will go through some challenging time, but it will not destroy all your happiness for all times. After some time of morning or feeling of having been hurt, you will again get happiness out of a variety of things and you will enjoy your life more and more.