They say that the first step is often the hardest of anything. Getting started on the things that we want to do, no matter how much we want to do it, often leads to a struggle. This struggle is an internal struggle that people need to fight using different methods and techniques.
As the egoic mind begins to identify with a sense of self that is emotionally arrested in childhood, the pain-body energy will intensify. This trauma gets continually re-triggered every single time the pain-body justifies its existence by identifying with its wounded self. It’s as if the pain-body says, “I have been hurt by others and therefore I deserve to be angry.”
Anorexia is absent among tribal cultures. It is a disease that is a result of our “civilized” society. We are programmed to feel shame and guilt from early on when we don’t “measure up” to others around us. It is the ego that projects hurt onto others and it is the ego that feels pain so deeply. Every negative emotion you’ve ever felt such as sadness, depression, or humiliation has been because of your ego’s reaction and nothing more.
Ask yourself: What do I find distasteful, disgusting, or despicable in others? Do you find yourself pointing at others calling them derogatory names? Public figures that you despise will also be the target of shadow projections. Shadow Work Life Coaching can help you to realize that your emotion-based judgments are always shadow projections and are therefore rooted in unresolved trauma.
Most people believe that they can control every challenge that arise in their daily lives. They also believe that they can control other people, especially those with whom they’re close to such as family, friends, or a partner. And it is this belief that leads to much of their suffering. Believing that you can control or alter what already is is nothing less than delusional thinking. In fact, it’s nothing less than insane. Yet the chaos that we observe in the world today is a large-scale reflection of an undiscovered truth that, nearly everyone is, to a large degree, saying “no” to what already is.
We can observe the shadow projection of blame just about everyday in the U.S. Government where it has resulted a polarity so inflexible that it has manifested itself as gridlock between the Democrats and the Republicans in both the House and Senate–for the last decade. Blame always comes from both parties. We’ve watched Congressmen and Senators place their allegiance to party principles before what is truly in the best interest of the people. With the exception of just a few, our government leaders have become political robots, walking and talking machines that can’t seem to get past their party’s ideology, and as a result, the whole country suffers. If the member of one party proposes a bill, any bill, no matter how beneficial or right it is for all–nearly every member of the other party opposes it.
Have you ever noticed that you can’t remember the beginning of a dream? When you’re dreaming, you never stop and think, “How did I get here?” You just take it for granted that there was a beginning. This is reality. It’s much like the waking life in that before the age of three, we don’t really remember much at all. One day we just arrived into our “dream of life,” not knowing precisely how we got here.
The following Spiritual Life Coaching exercises, if practiced regularly, can help you to become conscious of your ego, create a space between your egoic mind and your pure consciousness, and begin your path toward self transcendence:
In the movie, “The Matrix,” Morpheus says to Neo, “You are living in a prison that you cannot smell or taste or touch; a prison for your mind.” Just after college, I worked at a psychiatric hospital where I observed and recorded the behavior of schizophrenic patients. It became obvious immediately that their minds served as their own prisons.
Intolerance, racism, homophobia, and bigotry are extreme forms of disrespect for another human being. The shadow will judge another human being based on race, creed, culture, ethnicity, gender, sexual preference, and status. In so doing, it desensitizes and diminishes a soul into an inanimate object. The shadow does this in order to cloak the heart into the false perception that the person with whom it is stereotyping is somehow less than a life form. This is the shadow’s biggest trick when it comes to shielding itself against the boundless compassion of the heart.