Letting Go Is Important

In the course of our lives, it will happen that a relationship in which we are involved will end badly and the person we love will be lost to us forever. In such situations, letting go is so important, especially if it is over for good. Handling a break up is difficult but it is necessary to do it right for your own sake.

It is often the case that the least advisable action to take is to try and fix things. Your former partner may not wish to reciprocate and will be rendered more antagonistic to you as a result of your efforts. You will come off as overbearing and will be spending time in a profitless manner. Simply put, just back off.

It can be difficult for many people to simply accept that their relationship has ended because they delude themselves over how that relationship was. The good times are remembered warmly, while the bad times are airbrushed out of memory. As a result, a distorted and idealistic view of their past with their former partner is drawn, and seems more positive than it was in reality.

Nonetheless, there was a reason why that relationship ended. It obviously was not the case that the relationship was a great one and suddenly it was ruined. Whatever the reason was for the relationship ending, bear in mind that there is always a reason (or indeed, several reasons). And that the reason was good enough for the relationship to be brought to an end.

Even if you do not know what the reason was, the reason is definitely there. Whether it is something you did, something they did, or whether it was both of those factors and a host of others may well be a question that you can never find an answer to. And you are well advised to not expend a huge amount of your time trying to do so, as such obsessiveness can be self-destructive.

Accept the fact that there are some things in life that you are not able to control. Other people will make decisions of their own accord, and you are not able to influence everything. If your partner has elected to end the relationship, you cannot prevent them from doing so. You must simply acquiesce to the fact that the relationship is over and get on with your life.

Of course, this is a much easier thing to say than it is to do. The process of pulling yourself together after you have been through a major break up is a long and difficult one, and there are plenty of emotions you will have that need to be worked through. Plus, you must reconcile yourself to the fact that there is no such thing as completely getting over a break up, and that there will always be a part of you that feels this way over this relationship.

In spite of that, letting go of your failed relationship and moving on is of immense importance. It is important for both your health and for your own happiness. Time wasted clinging to the past in the hope of reviving something that is finished for good is time that could be better spent improving your own life, meeting someone else, and forging a mutually beneficial relationship that can bring you real fulfillment.

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