Healing From A Failed Long Term Relationship

You’ve just come through a tragic divorce that ended a long marriage that started out great and quickly soured. You feel desperate to fill the void that has been left behind. It isn’t long until someone else may catch your eye. This is called a rebound relationship, part of the recovery process of the divorce process.

These rebound relationships usually get their start when a significance love has been destroyed. People that are enduring the trauma of divorce generally feel they need a cushion of sorts. They can’t handle the feelings of loneliness and lovelessness, so they turn to someone else for support.

It is easy when you are hurting to turn to someone else, but try to remember that you are probably an emotional mess. This makes it more likely that you don’t know for sure what you want or need. You may try to find the opposite of what your previous partner was, but remember, you may not be thinking clearly.

Not to put a damper on things, but lets deal with the cold facts. Rebound relationships rarely work out long term. With all the emotions that have been running wild throughout the divorce, the divorcee simply needs time to heal before starting another relationship.

Another thing that you should know is that once the divorcee has recovered and is once again thinking clearly, they may be shocked at some of the decisions that they made. It is often that they realize they needed a replacement love, and didn’t truly love the new partner. They make the decision to end this second marriage, leaving the other partner feeling the same pain that they originally felt.

Study or work on a hobby you enjoy to try to help cope with the grief that you are feeling. When you feel that you are ready to try for a new relationship, make sure that this isn’t just a rebound thing. Look carefully and try to learn from your past mistakes.

Be careful in dating divorced men. They generally will end up leaving you once their needs are met. Also, don’t allow a rebounder to push you on the relationship. You need to know whether the person is with you mentally of still with the other person.

You can make a rebound relationship work if you are both willing to communicate honestly. You can make this relationship work if you are willing to take some risks.

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