Having A Frame Of Mind For Success

What is success? Massive quantities of energy go into following the life of the individuals who are “successful”, and nevertheless for most of us the sort of success of, say, a Brendan Fevola1 or a Paris Hilton2, is simply not what we’d need for ourselves. Success for us may signify getting that job, hitting our perfect weight, finding that boyfriend – or being the boyfriend everybody wants to find, increasing our monetary property to a specific point, regardless of whether that be longed-for comfort or serious wealth … Or that favourite of mine: the free will and happiness that comes from being fully at comfort with yourself. So what’s your own personal mountain, the one you want to climb and get pleasure from the view from?

Once we have a clear idea of What success would mean to us, it’s time to look at the How. It really is a much-loved slogan that it’s 80% (or 95% or or …) about the state of mind and 20% skill set, and although I think that is wildly blown out of proportions, it’s true that without the state of mind you’re expected to get nowhere in any area of your life.

The very first, and I think non-negotiable, aspect of this is the belief that you will be successful, and this needs to be there not barely on a conscious level, but also – and specially – on an unconscious level. If we don’t think we can succeed, there will always be fear, hesitancy, the search for Plan B, “Yes, but …” and “What if it all goes wrong?” That consumes a huge amount of energy and concentration – why would you ever put yourself through it?!

The second thing is a readiness to take “risks”. Now, we all have several different thresholds, and it’s important to keep that in mind. Nevertheless, staying in our “comfort” zone means, really, remaining where we are now, and for the majority of of us there will come a time when that does not look like something we would like to be looking back on 20 years, or even 6 months, down the track. So risks, here we come! Start small, and work your way up the ladder!

Thirdly, what communication are you sending yourself? Yes, you can note down your affirmations and gratitudes and put stickers on the refrigerator or bathroom mirror!

Even more important than this are the messages you send yourself with your actions. Three days before I began my training as a coach I hung up my board pens and walked (factually) out of the office and away from my teaching job. In my condition not truly a risk (I could simply go back), but I was sending myself a message: I’m not a teacher; I’m a coach. Coaching is “what I do”.

There is a lot more that could be written about this – many books have been, in actual fact. But the most important questions you must ask yourself are:

Do I want more success in any area of my life?

And am I interested in doing what it takes to accomplish that?

1 a renowned Bad Boy in Melbourne; he’s great at kicking pieces of leather amid wooden sticks, apparently.

2 I’ve still not discovered what she’s good at…

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