Fear of Intimacy – Is That My Partner?
Ever had your heart hurt by someone? Most of us would answer yes. Infrequently our hearts are hurt to such a degree we start building walls around our damaged heart in-order-to provide protection from a future hurt. Our heart can be damaged in a noticeably emotional way and even in a physical way. Having emotional discomfort can certainly lead directly to fear of intimacy where we are constantly safeguarding our heart from anymore discomfort and we are keeping others out.
Where does fear of intimacy most likely arrive from? Typically from a significant relationship like a man or fiance but more than likely form a better half or parent. In seems to occur mostly in young adolescence where a kid feels not loved or maybe worse deserted by a ma or father. Not having love or a safe home in the early developmental stages of life can be devastating for the child.
Can you imagine the hurt as a little girl and your mum and dad never tell you they love you or your dad deserts the home. God made each of us to love and to be loved. When that nurturing is absent the child’s world becomes a place of inter thoughts and the first stages of safeguarding their heart.
Next comes the shutting of others out when the heart emotionally becomes too engaged. It is the act of protection from being hurt. The individual may need to despairingly find somebody to love them but the sabotage each relationship because of their fear of intimacy.
This isn't God’s plan for their life, to live a life looking for acceptance and love. His wish is for His youngsters to live a loved fill life with joy, peace and excitement of what tomorrow holds. Not a life of fear or being constantly on guard.
Burton Rager writer of”Living Life Set Free” and “God’s Answer?” Click to find out more about How to Surrender to God and receive a complimentary copy of “God’s Answer?”