Building Self Esteem

Building is a good for self image. The building analogy implies planning. It demands work. It requires a firm foundation to be successful. Building is an active process that relies on mutual cooperation with folks. All these elements are necessary to construct your self-confidence in a way that lasts.

Nobody who plans on building a home expects that house to erect itself without any effort. Curiously many that lack self-confidence are waiting for it to simply materialize, even while they relax, eat ice cream and moan it's taking too long to be OK with themselves.

Of course, my waxing vicious won't help, either. This comes from my impatience toward myself. Part of me would like to maintain my self image without doing what I need to do every day to take care of myself, respect other people, try hard, and so on. You may call this a “child” facet of my personality that, when in charge, expects something for nothing. Actually it's a sign of low pride to expect things to be sorted for you. As if you suspect you cannot do what must be done on your own, or you are not actually worth the effort.

Isn’t pride our legacy? Well, not exactly, and the birthright metaphor isn’t helpful to start with. If I'm entitled to something “if it is my true legacy “then I don’t need to do anything to earn it and self-confidence simply doesn't abide in this manner. Even people with naturally high self image can simply mess it up by neglectfulness towards the must haves of living happily.

This leaves us in a bit of a quandary. If you start out with the low belief that you are not worth any effort to become contented and healthy, then how can you ever get started? Where does inducement for self-esteem come from?

The good news here is that the issue isn’t binary. It is not an either-or situation. You can indeed feel pointless to care for yourself. But that's only some of the time. At other times you're feeling more constructive. These more positive, less negative feelings represent a vital and necessary element of building self-image.

In the programme Doing Self Esteem, you learn how to harness these moments to make the maximum of them. If you do indeed learn to make the maximum of them; if you do not waste these dear moments, you'll soon find the scales starting to tip favor of your general fitness and self-respect. Tipping the scales constantly is all you need.

Rich Goodrich is an NLP consultant who offers NLP Specialist Certification Online.