As the egoic mind begins to identify with a sense of self that is emotionally arrested in childhood, the pain-body energy will intensify. This trauma gets continually re-triggered every single time the pain-body justifies its existence by identifying with its wounded self. It’s as if the pain-body says, “I have been hurt by others and therefore I deserve to be angry.”
When the pain-body becomes active it begins devouring your consciousness. It has succeeded in convincing you that you are the pain-body! Your entire mental process and sense of self is completely aligned with it. And it knows it. The pain-body is now in charge. It has taken over you, your speech, your sight, your perception, and most importantly, your emotions and all the pain that comes with them. And this is when you have, in a sense, become the pain-body. The true you is no longer. And at that very moment (at the time of consumption) the last thing in the world you want is to be at peace. You want war! So what do you do? You go looking for an enemy.
No matter how much meditation or spiritual practice you do, until you comprehend how the pain-body manifests itself through you and through others, you will be tricked by it and subsequently slip back into unconsciousness every time it resurfaces. The first step is to realize that you have a pain-body inside of you. Think of it as a body or field of energy that prospers through your own anger, hatred, heaviness, anxiety, depression, stress, and fears of impending doom. However it manifests, it will be causing you to re-experience your early childhood trauma which is the time when your pain-body began to manifest.
You don’t have to read clinical studies to know that stress has an effect on the body. You can feel it. You can feel the pain, the anxiety, the fear surging through your veins. Your muscles cramp, your stomach churns, and your entire body feels, well, miserable. For people who are chronically stressed, it is nothing less than a mild panic attack repeating itself, many times a day, every day, for years on end.
Let’s face it. We live in a drama-addicted society. But if a perpetual state of stress-induced drama continues to be blindly accepted as a state of normalcy, if we continue to scoff, “there’s always going to be stress,” then the impetus to separate ourselves from its malignancy will be lost.
When you align your will with a force that is infinitely greater than your ego, you align your Self with true power. Because the ego always comes equipped with a “self destruct” mechanism, the dysfunction of the ego will inevitably result in some form of suffering. So, at the end of the day, when you are ego-identified, you will be doing everything the “wrong way.”
Self transcendence online coaching can empower you to get out of your head and into your heart. By acting from heart-centered spontaneous right action, you are incapable of seeking violent retaliation against a bully because your entire being is grounded in peace. By allowing the mind to follow the heart, you become enveloped in compassion for your abuser or oppressor. This does not mean allowing them to continue to abuse you. Contrarily, becoming heart-centered also means drawing a line in the sand and saying “no” to anyone who does not respect you or your wishes. It means protecting the Self at all costs.
If you are playing a victim to life, then you are deeply unconscious. You’ve already given up on life, and have declared that life, another person, or some other force beyond yourself has somehow conquered you. In a way, you’ve sacrificed your soul to a phantom “other” that doesn’t even exist. In truth, victimization is the ego’s way of attracting the spotlight to itself. It is unconsciously played out by the ego for the sole purpose of extracting attention and sympathy from people around you.
Becoming consciously aware of your ego when facing each challenge in life is necessary for ego transcendence. Calmly and patiently being vigilant to each challenge as soon as it arises, will allow the challenge to play itself out, and eventually dissolve. Your only concern should be what is happening now, in the present moment.
Every thought you have is a simple form of energy. When negative thoughts are allowed to accumulate, they fester, intensify and become emotional in nature. If ignored or denied over time, these dark emotions tend to cling to our psyche, becoming tar-like and parasitical. Negative thoughts and emotions that arise from time to time are shamed by the ego and therefore denied or repressed altogether. The more you repress this negative self, the darker and denser it becomes.
